If You're Not a Feminist - What the Hell is Wrong with You!!?
I am a male human being.
And you'd better believe I'm a feminist.
I wear that label proudly.
The other day a friend of mine heard one of my articles was published in Everyday Feminism. And he said, "Kind of a backhanded compliment. Isn't it?"
Hell no!
I am a male human being.
And you'd better believe I'm a feminist.
I wear that label proudly.
The other day a friend of mine heard one of my articles was published in Everyday Feminism. And he said, "Kind of a backhanded compliment. Isn't it?"
Hell no!
What does that mean? Would someone suppose that a man being considered a feminist somehow made him less of a man?
On the contrary. I think it makes him more of one. It makes him a decent freakin' person.
I just don't understand this ridicule and fear of being called a feminist. I see it in both men and women.
The other day a co-worker said she's all for the idea that men and women deserve equal pay for the same job, but she doesn't consider herself a feminist.
Why the Hell not? That is a distinctly feminist point of view.
There seems to be this stigma about the term as if being a feminist was tantamount to being some sort of radical troublemaker. Some folks seem to think that feminists essentially hate men and seek them grievous harm.
It's ridiculous.
A feminist is just someone who thinks men and women should have the same rights and opportunities.
That's it. You can add more complicated terms, talk about economic, social and political rights, but it's the same darn thing.
Being a feminist just means you're not an asshole. That's not a gender-specific value. Nor should it depend on your political affiliation, sexual preference or spirituality.
If you think all people, regardless of what they've got between their legs, deserve to be treated fairly, then SURPRISE! You're feminist!
In the words of activist and academic Cheris Kramarae, feminism is "the radical notion that women are people."
Some folks try to convince you otherwise. They play a card from the racist playbook. It goes like this:
Stop saying 'Feminism.' Women don't deserve equal rights. All people do.
It's the same passive aggressive trick of the closeted white supremacists who attack Black Lives Matter activists because "All Lives Matter!"
Listen, skeezicks, no one said "ONLY Black Lives Matter" just like no one said "ONLY women's rights matter." What you're complaining about is pure baloney - a way to shut down the conversation and stop people from talking about inequalities that actually exist for women and people of color.
And don't assume I'm excluding transgender people, either. LGBTs are just as deserving of fair treatment as cisgender folks, heterosexuals or anyone else.
Yes, feminism calls attention to the plight of women. It deserves that attention. We have a lot of work to do making that right. Why should I feel guilty about bringing that up?
I am perfectly comfortable being called a feminist. I have a mother, and I love her. I have two grandmothers, an aunt, a wife, a daughter. Most of us, whether we're women or not, have important relationships with someone of the female persuasion. I can't imagine why anyone would want to deny those loved ones equal treatment.
But you don't have to know or care about a single woman. You could have sprung from the ground like a mushroom and lived in a dark corner without meeting anyone all your life. Why would you want to deny half of the human race fair treatment?
It's a deep seated psychosis. Like so much else, the current Presidential election has brought it even more to the forefront.
For the first time in American history, a woman tops the ticket of a major political party. (She's not even the only one. The Green Party has an impressive female candidate, too!) And just like in 2008 when Barack Obama became the our first President of color, the crazies are coming out of the woodwork.
I even had a female acquaintance tell me she couldn't support Hillary Clinton because she didn't feel comfortable with a woman in the Oval Office. She thought a woman would be too emotional to make those kinds of life-and-death decisions.
What a pile of crap!
It doesn't matter if you support Clinton or not. Being a woman does not disqualify her from the Presidency. Women make life-and-death decisions every day. In fact, given that many women have the very machinery of life embedded in their own bodies, they may be MORE suited to these decisions than men. After all, they are empowered to decide whether new life comes into the world. They literally give birth to the future.
Men can be important parts of the process. But it's not biologically required to the same degree.
Being the father of a daughter is the most important relationship in my life.
And I'll admit it made me think about gender issues more deeply.
All parents see the world anew through their children's eyes, and what I see from my little one's point of view doesn't fill me with confidence.
I see everywhere women have to prove themselves just to get in the door while men are assumed to be worthy of a shot just by virtue of their masculinity.
People listen to men more seriously than they do women. People expect men to take the lead. They expect women to follow. Men have much higher representation in almost all valued professions - doctors, lawyers, politicians.
It's no wonder school teachers get no respect. They're mostly women. As one of the few males in front of the classroom, I see this first hand on a daily basis.
So I try to do what I can to protect my daughter from ingesting these cultural stereotypes and sick ways of thinking.
Just the other day, we were listening to a Joan Jett song, and my little one asked if there were many good women rock stars. I responded by making her a playlist on my iPod filled with nothing but female fronted music groups. It's full of artists like No Doubt, Cyndi Lauper, the Pretenders, Heart, Lauryn Hill, Patti LaBelle and Fiona Apple.
My daughter loves it. When we ride around in the car she invariably asks for "The Girl Album," and I get it. She likes hearing people like her in that role. She likes seeing that it's a possibility, that girls don't have to take a backseat. They can lead. They're just as important as boys any day.
That's what being a feminist means.
It's challenging your own patriarchal ways of thinking. It's continually asking 'Is this fair?" It's having the courage to challenge the status quo and siding with the oppressed against the oppressor - even if the oppressor looks like you.
So Hell Yeah I'm a feminist. And if you're not - really - what is wrong with you!!?
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I am a male human being.
And you'd better believe I'm a feminist.
I wear that label proudly.
The other day a friend of mine heard one of my articles was published in Everyday Feminism. And he said, "Kind of a backhanded compliment. Isn't it?"
Hell no!
What does that mean? Would someone suppose that a man being considered a feminist somehow made him less of a man?
On the contrary. I think it makes him more of one. It makes him a decent freakin' person.
I just don't understand this ridicule and fear of being called a feminist. I see it in both men and women.
The other day a co-worker said she's all for the idea that men and women deserve equal pay for the same job, but she doesn't consider herself a feminist.
Why the Hell not? That is a distinctly feminist point of view.
There seems to be this stigma about the term as if being a feminist was tantamount to being some sort of radical troublemaker. Some folks seem to think that feminists essentially hate men and seek them grievous harm.
It's ridiculous.
A feminist is just someone who thinks men and women should have the same rights and opportunities.
That's it. You can add more complicated terms, talk about economic, social and political rights, but it's the same darn thing.
Being a feminist just means you're not an asshole. That's not a gender-specific value. Nor should it depend on your political affiliation, sexual preference or spirituality.
If you think all people, regardless of what they've got between their legs, deserve to be treated fairly, then SURPRISE! You're feminist!
In the words of activist and academic Cheris Kramarae, feminism is "the radical notion that women are people."
Some folks try to convince you otherwise. They play a card from the racist playbook. It goes like this:
Stop saying 'Feminism.' Women don't deserve equal rights. All people do.
It's the same passive aggressive trick of the closeted white supremacists who attack Black Lives Matter activists because "All Lives Matter!"
Listen, skeezicks, no one said "ONLY Black Lives Matter" just like no one said "ONLY women's rights matter." What you're complaining about is pure baloney - a way to shut down the conversation and stop people from talking about inequalities that actually exist for women and people of color.
And don't assume I'm excluding transgender people, either. LGBTs are just as deserving of fair treatment as cisgender folks, heterosexuals or anyone else.
Yes, feminism calls attention to the plight of women. It deserves that attention. We have a lot of work to do making that right. Why should I feel guilty about bringing that up?
I am perfectly comfortable being called a feminist. I have a mother, and I love her. I have two grandmothers, an aunt, a wife, a daughter. Most of us, whether we're women or not, have important relationships with someone of the female persuasion. I can't imagine why anyone would want to deny those loved ones equal treatment.
But you don't have to know or care about a single woman. You could have sprung from the ground like a mushroom and lived in a dark corner without meeting anyone all your life. Why would you want to deny half of the human race fair treatment?
It's a deep seated psychosis. Like so much else, the current Presidential election has brought it even more to the forefront.
For the first time in American history, a woman tops the ticket of a major political party. (She's not even the only one. The Green Party has an impressive female candidate, too!) And just like in 2008 when Barack Obama became the our first President of color, the crazies are coming out of the woodwork.
I even had a female acquaintance tell me she couldn't support Hillary Clinton because she didn't feel comfortable with a woman in the Oval Office. She thought a woman would be too emotional to make those kinds of life-and-death decisions.
What a pile of crap!
It doesn't matter if you support Clinton or not. Being a woman does not disqualify her from the Presidency. Women make life-and-death decisions every day. In fact, given that many women have the very machinery of life embedded in their own bodies, they may be MORE suited to these decisions than men. After all, they are empowered to decide whether new life comes into the world. They literally give birth to the future.
Men can be important parts of the process. But it's not biologically required to the same degree.
Being the father of a daughter is the most important relationship in my life.
And I'll admit it made me think about gender issues more deeply.
All parents see the world anew through their children's eyes, and what I see from my little one's point of view doesn't fill me with confidence.
I see everywhere women have to prove themselves just to get in the door while men are assumed to be worthy of a shot just by virtue of their masculinity.
People listen to men more seriously than they do women. People expect men to take the lead. They expect women to follow. Men have much higher representation in almost all valued professions - doctors, lawyers, politicians.
It's no wonder school teachers get no respect. They're mostly women. As one of the few males in front of the classroom, I see this first hand on a daily basis.
So I try to do what I can to protect my daughter from ingesting these cultural stereotypes and sick ways of thinking.
Just the other day, we were listening to a Joan Jett song, and my little one asked if there were many good women rock stars. I responded by making her a playlist on my iPod filled with nothing but female fronted music groups. It's full of artists like No Doubt, Cyndi Lauper, the Pretenders, Heart, Lauryn Hill, Patti LaBelle and Fiona Apple.
My daughter loves it. When we ride around in the car she invariably asks for "The Girl Album," and I get it. She likes hearing people like her in that role. She likes seeing that it's a possibility, that girls don't have to take a backseat. They can lead. They're just as important as boys any day.
That's what being a feminist means.
It's challenging your own patriarchal ways of thinking. It's continually asking 'Is this fair?" It's having the courage to challenge the status quo and siding with the oppressed against the oppressor - even if the oppressor looks like you.
So Hell Yeah I'm a feminist. And if you're not - really - what is wrong with you!!?
I am a male human being.
And you'd better believe I'm a feminist.
I wear that label proudly.
The other day a friend of mine heard one of my articles was published in Everyday Feminism. And he said, "Kind of a backhanded compliment. Isn't it?"
Hell no!
What does that mean? Would someone suppose that a man being considered a feminist somehow made him less of a man?
On the contrary. I think it makes him more of one. It makes him a decent freakin' person.
I just don't understand this ridicule and fear of being called a feminist. I see it in both men and women.
The other day a co-worker said she's all for the idea that men and women deserve equal pay for the same job, but she doesn't consider herself a feminist.
Why the Hell not? That is a distinctly feminist point of view.
There seems to be this stigma about the term as if being a feminist was tantamount to being some sort of radical troublemaker. Some folks seem to think that feminists essentially hate men and seek them grievous harm.
It's ridiculous.
A feminist is just someone who thinks men and women should have the same rights and opportunities.
That's it. You can add more complicated terms, talk about economic, social and political rights, but it's the same darn thing.
Being a feminist just means you're not an asshole. That's not a gender-specific value. Nor should it depend on your political affiliation, sexual preference or spirituality.
If you think all people, regardless of what they've got between their legs, deserve to be treated fairly, then SURPRISE! You're feminist!
In the words of activist and academic Cheris Kramarae, feminism is "the radical notion that women are people."
Some folks try to convince you otherwise. They play a card from the racist playbook. It goes like this:
Stop saying 'Feminism.' Women don't deserve equal rights. All people do.
It's the same passive aggressive trick of the closeted white supremacists who attack Black Lives Matter activists because "All Lives Matter!"
Listen, skeezicks, no one said "ONLY Black Lives Matter" just like no one said "ONLY women's rights matter." What you're complaining about is pure baloney - a way to shut down the conversation and stop people from talking about inequalities that actually exist for women and people of color.
And don't assume I'm excluding transgender people, either. LGBTs are just as deserving of fair treatment as cisgender folks, heterosexuals or anyone else.
Yes, feminism calls attention to the plight of women. It deserves that attention. We have a lot of work to do making that right. Why should I feel guilty about bringing that up?
I am perfectly comfortable being called a feminist. I have a mother, and I love her. I have two grandmothers, an aunt, a wife, a daughter. Most of us, whether we're women or not, have important relationships with someone of the female persuasion. I can't imagine why anyone would want to deny those loved ones equal treatment.
But you don't have to know or care about a single woman. You could have sprung from the ground like a mushroom and lived in a dark corner without meeting anyone all your life. Why would you want to deny half of the human race fair treatment?
It's a deep seated psychosis. Like so much else, the current Presidential election has brought it even more to the forefront.
For the first time in American history, a woman tops the ticket of a major political party. (She's not even the only one. The Green Party has an impressive female candidate, too!) And just like in 2008 when Barack Obama became the our first President of color, the crazies are coming out of the woodwork.
I even had a female acquaintance tell me she couldn't support Hillary Clinton because she didn't feel comfortable with a woman in the Oval Office. She thought a woman would be too emotional to make those kinds of life-and-death decisions.
What a pile of crap!
It doesn't matter if you support Clinton or not. Being a woman does not disqualify her from the Presidency. Women make life-and-death decisions every day. In fact, given that many women have the very machinery of life embedded in their own bodies, they may be MORE suited to these decisions than men. After all, they are empowered to decide whether new life comes into the world. They literally give birth to the future.
Men can be important parts of the process. But it's not biologically required to the same degree.
Being the father of a daughter is the most important relationship in my life.
And I'll admit it made me think about gender issues more deeply.
All parents see the world anew through their children's eyes, and what I see from my little one's point of view doesn't fill me with confidence.
I see everywhere women have to prove themselves just to get in the door while men are assumed to be worthy of a shot just by virtue of their masculinity.
People listen to men more seriously than they do women. People expect men to take the lead. They expect women to follow. Men have much higher representation in almost all valued professions - doctors, lawyers, politicians.
It's no wonder school teachers get no respect. They're mostly women. As one of the few males in front of the classroom, I see this first hand on a daily basis.
So I try to do what I can to protect my daughter from ingesting these cultural stereotypes and sick ways of thinking.
Just the other day, we were listening to a Joan Jett song, and my little one asked if there were many good women rock stars. I responded by making her a playlist on my iPod filled with nothing but female fronted music groups. It's full of artists like No Doubt, Cyndi Lauper, the Pretenders, Heart, Lauryn Hill, Patti LaBelle and Fiona Apple.
My daughter loves it. When we ride around in the car she invariably asks for "The Girl Album," and I get it. She likes hearing people like her in that role. She likes seeing that it's a possibility, that girls don't have to take a backseat. They can lead. They're just as important as boys any day.
That's what being a feminist means.
It's challenging your own patriarchal ways of thinking. It's continually asking 'Is this fair?" It's having the courage to challenge the status quo and siding with the oppressed against the oppressor - even if the oppressor looks like you.
So Hell Yeah I'm a feminist. And if you're not - really - what is wrong with you!!?